Thursday, August 30, 2012

Lexi's new toy!

I love seeing my lil girl smile this way...


Like what I always say.... ang sarap maging bata!!!

Some test shots by the lil girl :)





Friday, August 24, 2012

FB Timeline Cover :)


Designs by Megan Turnidge available at ScrapMatters
OWL Image from the net 

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Baby Milestones: Arkin is sitting with support


After lots of effort, Arkin can now sit up with help at 16 weeks. 
As long as he is placed into the sitting position and someone holds his arms for support, Arkin can sit up and look around for a few minutes.



Yay! Good baby!


Friday, August 17, 2012

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Ten Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids


In 29 countries around the world, it is illegal for a parent, teacher, or anyone else to spank a child, and 113 countries prohibit corporal punishment in schools. Yet in all of North America, physical punishment by a parent, as long as it is not severe, is still seen by many as necessary discipline, and condoned, or sadly, even encouraged.
For the past several years, many psychiatrists, sociological researchers, and parents have recommended that we seriously consider banning the physical punishment of children. The most important reason, according to Dr. Peter Newell, coordinator of the organization End Punishment of Children (EPOCH), is that "all people have the right to protection of their physical integrity, and children are people too."

1. Hitting children teaches them to become hitters themselves. Extensive research data is now available to support a direct correlation between corporal punishment in childhood and aggressive or violent behavior in the teenage and adult years. Virtually all of the most dangerous criminals were regularly threatened and punished in childhood. It is nature's plan that children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill. Thus it is the responsibility of parents to set an example of empathy and wisdom.

2. In many cases of so-called "bad behavior", the child is simply responding in the only way he can, given his age and experience, to neglect of basic needs. Among these needs are: proper sleep and nutrition, treatment of hidden allergy, fresh air, exercise, and sufficient freedom to explore the world around him. But his greatest need is for his parents' undivided attention. In these busy times, few children receive sufficient time and attention from their parents, who are often too distracted by their own problems and worries to treat their children with patience and empathy. It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust.

3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks."  A punished child becomes preoccupied with feelings of anger and fantasies of revenge, and is thus deprived of the opportunity to learn more effective methods of solving the problem at hand. Thus, a punished child learns little about how to handle or prevent similar situations in the future.

4. The phrase "Spare the rod and spoil the child" is not from the Bible but from Samuel Butler's "Hudibras", a 17th Century satirical poem. The poem, like his novel, The Way of All Flesh, was written to expose and denounce violence against children. Ironically, this phrase is now used to justify corporal punishment and other punitive actions against children.

5. Punishment interferes with the bond between parent and child, as it is not human nature to feel loving toward someone who hurts us. The true spirit of cooperation which every parent desires can arise only through a strong bond based on mutual feelings of love and respect. Punishment, even when it appears to work, can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist. In contrast, cooperation based on respect will last permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older.

6. Many parents never learned in their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. When punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child.

7. Anger and frustration which cannot be safely expressed by a child become stored inside; angry teenagers do not fall from the sky. Anger that has been accumulating for many years can come as a shock to parents whose child now feels strong enough to express this rage. Punishment may appear to produce "good behavior" in the early years, but always at a high price, paid by parents and by society as a whole, as the child enters adolescence and early adulthood.

8. Spanking on the buttocks, an erogenous zone in childhood, can create in the child's mind an association between pain and sexual pleasure, and lead to difficulties in adulthood. "Spanking wanted" ads in alternative newspapers attest to the sad consequences of this confusion of pain and pleasure. If a child receives little parental attention except when being punished, this will further merge the concepts of pain and pleasure in the child's mind. A child in this situation will have little self-esteem, believing he deserves nothing better. For more on this topic, see "The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children" (also in French).

Even relatively moderate spanking can be physically dangerous. Blows to the lower end of the spinal column send shock waves along the length of the spine, and may injure the child. The prevalence of lower back pain among adults in our society may well have its origins in childhood punishment. Some children have become paralyzed through nerve damage from spanking, and some have died after mild paddlings, due to undiagnosed medical complications.

9. Physical punishment gives the dangerous and unfair message that "might makes right", that it is permissible to hurt someone else, provided they are smaller and less powerful than you are. The child then concludes that it is permissible to mistreat younger or smaller children. When he becomes an adult, he can feel little compassion for those less fortunate than he is, and fears those who are more powerful. This will hinder the establishment of meaningful relationships so essential to an emotionally fulfilling life.

10. Because children learn through parental modeling, physical punishment gives the message that hitting is an appropriate way to express feelings and to solve problems. If a child does not observe a parent solving problems in a creative and humane way, it can be difficult for him to learn to do this himself. For this reason, unskilled parenting often continues into the next generation.

Gentle instruction, supported by a strong foundation of love and respect, is the only truly effective way to bring about commendable behavior based on strong inner values, instead of superficially "good" behavior based only on fear.

SOURCE:
http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/tenreasons.html



I'm ashamed to confess but I used to be a spanker (I hate myself for this and I feel like I'm a BAD BAD MOTHER!), now I really try not to spank my daughter at all...

I learned that if your child is getting everything they need (I don't mean material things, I mean enough attention) then they want to be good for you. 
There's this thing called attachment & the more I learn about it, the more it makes sense.
I notice that if I've been really busy with our newborn & haven't spent much time with my daughter, then she acts out, if I take a little bit of time out of my day to spend with her, good quality time, I find she's all around better behave. 

Now, I do not believe spanking teaches a child anything, least of all why it is that what they did was wrong. 
When you spank you teach a child only to obey through fear of being hit. 

Spanking and discipline are NOT the same thing.

reminiscing our moment




pics taken almost 2 years ago...

A daughter is one of the most beautiful gifts the world has to give....

I love you, Lexi!

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

August DS

So I've attempted to scrap again. 
I don't know what's happening but it seems that I've lost my so called creative mind after I underwent C-Sec last April.. 

Showing you my latest LO


KIT: Cinnamons Scraps

I uber love this kit and it's FREE!!!

Grab it here

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Cinnamon-Scraps/105469666185157?sk=app_161128210587174

Happy Scrapping!


Friday, August 10, 2012

Changes...

Showing the signs of aging.... 

Me 20ish     and     Me 30ish



Cupcake Toppers - Ben Ten and Barney

For my inaanak/nephew who's turning 2 years old...




Cupcake toppers in action




Thursday, August 9, 2012

I wanna lay you down....


on a bed of CDs.............. 

Habagat aftermath...

Praying that the flood water will not seep inside our house.... 


Lexi trying to cheer us up...

Lord, please hear our prayers....


All about OWLS!

Oooohhhh.... I love them! I love anything with owls!

I want to have all of these! 

****My OWL Lemmings***

SKIPHOP OWL ITEMS






OWL LEGWARMERS


OWL BUSHA PANTS

SKIP HOP TEETHER AND PLUSH TOY
I LOVE THIS BEANIE HAT!!!


GROVIA CLOTH DIAPER

MODIA CLOTH DIAPER

SKIP HOP PLATES

AWWW.. watta lovely pillow!


OWL THEMED PLAYGYM
OWL ONESIE

BABYLEGS HOOT OWL LEGWARMERS

OWL CRIB BEDDINGS

OWL ORNAMENTS (saw these at ETSY)


OWL PURSES...cute!!!

OWL BEDDINGS.... like like!


ALVA CLOTH DIAPER (in our stash)


OWL WETBAG

OWL MUG


OWL TEE


FOR ME.... OWL NECKLACE!


AND OH MY... DROOOLLLLL.... OWL RING!!!


Okay! Now I'm really getting addicted to OWLS!!!

Love you OWL-ways...hihihi!!!
Ang kyut!! Yun lang!